It is not you. The maths is genuinely against you, and almost nothing is built to help.
Think about what has to happen for one couple friendship to exist. You have to like them. Your partner has to like them. They have to like you. Their partner has to like your partner. Then all four of you have to be free on the same evening, doing something none of you hate.
Two person friendships need one match. Couple friendships need four, plus a scheduling miracle. That is the whole explanation, and it is why most couples end up with whoever they inherited from work or family rather than anyone they chose.
The most common failure by far. Two of you get on brilliantly and one pairing is polite and flat. It can still work, but only if the strong pair does the organising and nobody pretends the flat pair is something it is not.
One person's work friend, and three people being nice about it. These rarely survive a year because only one of the four is motivated.
Four people in a group chat is where plans go to die. Everyone is agreeable, nobody commits, and it fades without a single person deciding to end it.
One couple wants a standing monthly dinner and the other wants an occasional big night. Both are reasonable and they do not fit, and it usually goes unspoken until it just stops.
The one that fixes most of it. Be the couple who names a date. Almost nobody does, and the couples who do end up with all the friends.
The honest list is short: through work, through family, through children, and through the couple you already know introducing you. Everything else is chance, which is exactly why the search brings people to apps.
And that search is where most couples give up, because a lot of what comes back is swinging or is worded so it could be either. If you simply want another couple to get dinner with, that is exhausting and most people close the tab.
Friends only, written into the rules. Pushing for anything non platonic is a specific, named reason to report an account, and it gets accounts removed.
Both of you have to be real. You each sign up separately with your own email and date of birth, then one of you shows a code and the other scans it, in person, on two phones in the same room. Until that happens, your couple profile is not shown to anybody. One person cannot run a couple account alone.
You match on what you both actually like, with no photos for the first three days, and on day 7 the app asks all four of you for a plan with a date on it.
More detail on all of it is on the couples page.
Because four people have to like each other rather than two, and then four diaries have to align. A two person friendship needs one match; a couple friendship needs four plus a scheduling coincidence, which is why most couples end up with inherited friends rather than chosen ones.
Something with an activity in it, kept short. Four people at a dinner table with nothing to do but talk is a demanding format for strangers, whereas a walk, a market or a quiz fills the silences and has a natural end point.
Kindred has a couples mode that is friends only and enforces it, with non platonic approaches being a named reason to report an account. Both partners must register separately and confirm each other by scanning a code in person before the couple profile is shown to anyone.
Friends only, enforced, and both partners have to sign up separately and confirm in person. Join the launch list and you get Kindred free for good, plus three months of Kindred+.
Kindred does not run background checks and does not verify that anyone is who they say they are. No app does, whatever it implies. Meet somewhere public the first few times, tell someone where you are going, sort out your own way home, and never send anyone money. The safety section is honest about exactly what we do and what we cannot do.